Self Care


Self-care is not selfish. It's preventative mental health. Making a commitment to self-care rituals will improve your physical health; mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing; enhance the quality of your relationships; and increase your vitality and zest for life.​

I hope the ideas shared here provide some self-care rituals that bring meaning and enhanced wellbeing into your life. .


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Privately guided Reset & Renewal sessions

Take your self care to a whole other level.

Step out of isolation and winter cocooning and experience a deep personal reset and renewal session.


Deeply connect to mind, body and spirit in this unique private session that includes guided soothing and restorative yoga, blissful meditation and deep supported personal self-reflection.

Meditation that's powerful and easy to do 

We all know how good it would be if we meditated, we're well aware of the transformative power that lies in regular meditation for enhanced wellbeing and positive mental health. Maybe however, you're like me, and you've struggled to find a form of meditation that feels easy to do, you feel confident you're 'doing right' and that you actually stick to.

As someone with a very busy mind and fidgety, wriggly body, I have certainly found it challenging. Many styles help me deeply relax certainly, but none have made me feel quite so deeply still, connected and inspired to practice regularly as Ajapa Japa with Dr Swami Shankardev Saraswati. 

If this sounds like you, do check out the link below to Ajapa Japa meditation facilitated by the wonderful Dr Swami Shankardev Saraswati. This has become my 'go to' both personally and with many of my clients who sincerely want to meditate but have not yet found one they commit to.

Whether this particular form is right for you, or not, please do look for a form that fits your needs. Regular practice is so calming for the mind and body, and helps you reconnect to your innate inner strengths and resilience. 

* please note, if you purchase from via this link I receive a small commission.  If you would prefer, please feel free to go directly to Big Shakti's website.

Make time to Read

Reading provides a wonderful opportunity to be still. To enjoy being alone. To experience peace.. To inform and educate or escape into a wonderful narrative.


I am often asked by clients what I'm reading. It is my go-to downtime activity and there is a never ending array of options available to us. Below are some of my personal favourites. 

  • Mating in Captivity Esther Perel, 2007

  • The Course of Love, Alain de Botton, 2016

  • Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, Arielle Ford, 2012

  • The Dance of Intimacy, Harriet Lerner, 1989

  • The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, Elaine Aron, 2000

  • The State of Affairs, Esther Perel, 2017

  • Oneness and Separateness, Louise J. Kaplan, 1978

  • Parenting from the Inside Out, Daniel J. Siegel, 2013
  • The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance, Polly Young-Eisendrath, 2009

Self-reflection & healing
  • The Courage to be Disliked: The Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness, Ichiro Kishimi, 2017 

  • Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, Susan Cain, 2013

  • Breathe! You Are Alive, Thich Nhat Hanh, 1988

  • Mindfulness, Bliss and Beyond, Ajahn Brahm, 2006

  • The Confidence Gap, Russ Harris, 2015

To another place
  • The Red Tent, Anita Diamant, 1997

  • Memoirs of a Geisha, Arthur Golden, 1997

  • Room, Emma Donoghue, 2010