How to Stop People Pleasing - Look to The Wisdom of the Trees

Why we Need to Stop People Pleasing

As someone who has experienced the exhaustion, self doubt and unbalanced relationships that come along with being a people pleaser, I have learned the hard way that:

• We can't be all things to all people

• We can't do all the things, all the time

• We can't always be available to others, when at times we need to be more available to ourselves

• Saying yes all the time when it crosses the boundary of our own needs or preferences is not what it means to be a 'good person'

• Saying yes when we mean no is not the way to earn respect from others or ourselves

• We owe it to ourselves to seek support at times, rather than hold tightly to an idea that we should be able to cope alone and work so hard to maintain our 'easy going' mask.

“Trees maintain an inner balance.

They budget their strength carefully,

and they must be economical with energy

so that they can meet all their needs.”

 ~ Peter Wohlleben

If we don't begin to budget our energy, be more discerning about how and where we spend it, exhaustion, fatigue and unbalanced relationships persist.

How to Stop People Pleasing

To tap into this wisdom and begin to recover from people pleasing could you begin to work on:

• Saying no more to others and yes more to yourself

• Managing your energy levels and taking better care of what you actually have available to give

• Being more discerning about what you want to achieve to leave a little energy left over just for you

• Reaching out to support networks when you need a little extra care

• Prioritising your needs ~ as a gracious act of self love.

  
  

I hope this helps you begin to cultivate a new relationship to the pleaser in you and discover a more balanced and loving approach to your life.

If you would like a supportive coach on the sidelines in your recovery from the devasating personal impacts of people pleasing, get in touch with me today.