Self Care


Self-care is not selfish. It's preventative mental health. Making a commitment to self-care rituals will improve your physical health; mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing; enhance the quality of your relationships; and increase your vitality and zest for life.​

I hope the ideas shared here provide some self-care rituals that bring meaning and enhanced wellbeing into your life.


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Private Self-Care Sessions

Take self-care and self-discovery to a whole new level. Step deeply into yourself in this unique privately-guided session that includes soothing yoga, meditation, holistic self-discovery and therapeutically supported reflection. Oooh - and there's a little gift in there for you too to help you keep the self-love flowing long after you leave.

These sessions are tailored to your specific needs and foster a new commitment to your ongoing care and wellbeing.

When we take time to get to know ourselves more deeply, we feel more able to bring our 'best self' into our life and all of our relationships.

Meditation that's powerful and easy to do 

We all know how good it would be if we meditated, we're well aware of the transformative power that lies in regular meditation for enhanced wellbeing and positive mental health. Maybe however, you're like me, and you've struggled to find a form of meditation that feels easy to do, you feel confident you're 'doing right' and that you actually stick to.

As someone with a very busy mind and fidgety, wriggly body, I have certainly found it challenging. Many styles help me deeply relax certainly, but none have made me feel quite so deeply still, connected and inspired to practice regularly as Ajapa Japa with Dr Swami Shankardev Saraswati. 

If this sounds like you, do check out the link below to Ajapa Japa meditation facilitated by the wonderful Dr Swami Shankardev Saraswati. This has become my 'go to' both personally and with many of my clients who sincerely want to meditate but have not yet found one they commit to.

Whether this particular form is right for you, or not, please do look for a form that fits your needs. Regular practice is so calming for the mind and body, and helps you reconnect to your innate inner strengths and resilience. 

* please note, if you purchase from via this link I receive a small commission.  If you would prefer, please feel free to go directly to Big Shakti's website.

Create time and space to Read 

Reading provides a wonderful opportunity to be still. To relish being alone. To experience peace. To inform and educate or escape and travel. I am often asked by clients what I'm reading or what they might read to enhance our work together. Here is a very brief list of suggestions as a starting point.

  • Mating in Captivity Esther Perel, 2007

  • The Course of Love, Alain de Botton, 2016

  • Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, Arielle Ford, 2012

  • The Dance of Intimacy, Harriet Lerner, 1989

  • The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, Elaine Aron, 2000

  • The State of Affairs, Esther Perel, 2017

  • Passionate Marriage, David Schnarch, 2009

  • Oneness and Separateness, Louise J. Kaplan, 1978

  • Parenting from the Inside Out, Daniel J. Siegel, 2013
  • The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance, Polly Young-Eisendrath, 2009

Self-reflection & healing
  • The Courage to be Disliked: The Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness, Ichiro Kishimi, 2017 

  • Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, Susan Cain, 2013

  • Breathe! You Are Alive, Thich Nhat Hanh, 1988

  • Mindfulness, Bliss and Beyond, Ajahn Brahm, 2006

  • The Confidence Gap, Russ Harris, 2015

Mind travelling
  • The Red Tent, Anita Diamant, 1997

  • Memoirs of a Geisha, Arthur Golden, 1997

  • Room, Emma Donoghue, 2010

  • The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, 1943

  • Gift from the Sea, Anne Morrow Lindbergh, 1955