Negative Beliefs & the Art of Letting Go

I have been reflecting on a common source of suffering we speak much of in therapy ~ the negative beliefs [about ourselves and others] that keep us stuck ... in anxiety, depression, fear, helplessness, low self-worth ... and so much more.

“There is so much that we are meant to be, but are not and are meant to feel, but don't.

And in the gap between ... grows silence, shame, anxiety and guilt.”

~ Alain de botton

Negative Beliefs Create a Gap

We insert these negative stories into the gap between what we think we should be and what we really are. They become a deeply 'un-compassionate' way we see and speak to ourselves and they can render life very small. They impact our confidence, sense of meaning and happiness and they keep us chained to our histories.

The work we do together in holistic therapy to actively deconstruct these stories helps us re-find our core self, our true self, our worthy self ... so we can expand ~ our view of ourselves, our perspectives of others and our outlook on life. 

An important step in unravelling and reshaping our narratives lies in letting go. 

The Art of Letting Go

Letting go is an art indeed. It requires that we:~

• Acknowledge the unhealthy beliefs that keep old stories alive

• Find healthier ways to express the emotions that come along with these stories [especially when they show up in the present]

• Surrender even a small aspect of a belief to begin to change its energetic footprint; then

• Mindfully, intentionally .... let it go.

When we create space for new perspectives, we are more able to move out of overwhelm and helplessness and re-remember our innate capacity to cope, reframe a situation and consciously shape new narratives for ourselves and our future.

"“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

 ~ Victor E Frankl

If I can support you in letting go of something small or profound, get in touch today.